What Example Of Success Do You Set? ...Is It Who You Really Are?
Example: a pattern of something successful to be imitated
To set the best example of success, remain true to yourself.Regardless of whether you like it or not...or are even aware of it...you are a role model for others.
As we gain life and work experience, we also serve as examples to others who are less experienced in life and in their work.
When
we do our work well, we also serve as role models
for contacts, clients
and even to people who we don't know but who know us.
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I don't know about you but I find it kind of scary knowing that unknowingly and involuntarily, I am serving as an example for other people...many of whom I don't even know.
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Am I What I Want You To Be?
However, instead of worrying about the potential for problems, I prefer following the advice of Ken McLachlan broker-owner of RE/MAX Hallmark Realty Ltd. Brokerage in Toronto.As well as recognizing the importance of desire as a success factor, Ken understands how we influence other people.
To assess the effectiveness of his behavior as an example to others, Ken uses the question: "Am I Being The Way I Want You To Be?"
He explains:
“It’s
easier to show people how to act than to tell them what to do.
"So my approach is to try be the way I want some one else to be.
“As a parent, it’s much easier to show my children how to be in life, rather than tell them. So if I’m living the life of integrity, purpose, drive and passion, my kids will more then likely see that.
“It’s better than telling them that they have to be passionate in life...
“I have no control over them, how they’re going to be.
“The only thing I can control are the choices I make.
"If I want some one to be ethical in life, I can ask that person 'Why he or she isn’t more ethical.'
“But when I do this, I would point a finger back at myself which raises the question of 'am I being that way in life?'
“Do I have integrity?...ethics?
“Let me live my life the way…with ethics and integrity and not worry about how others live their lives.
“That gets back to just worry about yourself being ethical, having integrity, being progressive, being all those great things.”
"So my approach is to try be the way I want some one else to be.
“As a parent, it’s much easier to show my children how to be in life, rather than tell them. So if I’m living the life of integrity, purpose, drive and passion, my kids will more then likely see that.
“It’s better than telling them that they have to be passionate in life...
“I have no control over them, how they’re going to be.
“The only thing I can control are the choices I make.
"If I want some one to be ethical in life, I can ask that person 'Why he or she isn’t more ethical.'
“But when I do this, I would point a finger back at myself which raises the question of 'am I being that way in life?'
“Do I have integrity?...ethics?
“Let me live my life the way…with ethics and integrity and not worry about how others live their lives.
“That gets back to just worry about yourself being ethical, having integrity, being progressive, being all those great things.”
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Unfortunately like most great advice, being the way we want others to be is easier said than done.
Far too frequently we are so focused on pleasing others that we find ourselves doing what we think they want...and ignoring those things that are important to us.
Although undertaken with the best of intentions...to please others...more often than not, this approach leads to problems.
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Know Thyself...
The
best..and perhaps only way to set the example that you hope others
will follow is to follow the age-old wisdom:
know
thyself
to thine own self be true
to thine own self be true
In practice knowing yourself this means fully understanding knowing what you value, believe in and desire.
Being true to yourself means doing only those things that are consistent with these values, beliefs and desires.
After all, if other people only occasionally honored their values, beliefs and desires....how honest would their example be for you?
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